Abusive behavior deserves rebuff

A certain Big Sur habitant, having a long history of venomous verbal attacks on others and whom I will call “Birdseed” aka BigSurRecCrew, sent me this email Tuesday morning a week after Labor Day:

Update the maps old man.  Why you stalling? Come on,you wanted to be the map guy.  You wanted to help Vwa gatekeep the illegal man made hot tub in lost valley.  Come on old man.  Why you shy all of a sudden?

With no honor or integrity as a man, you should be much ashamed,but it takes honor and integrity to feel shame for false and misleading actions and intents.

Up date your maps old man.  Dont be shy now.  I thought the whole point was open safe accessible trails for all.. you disingenuous, dishonest, disrespectful, old ass honky cracker piece of shit its white folks like you that Ive spent my entire life apologizing to everyone else for youre fucking disgusting

Hard to believe anyone would think this type of abusive email would get the desired response.  Has throwing a tantrum and calling names ever worked for him – would you do as he demands ??

For me, at least, a push back is my response. I will cold shoulder anyone who assaults me verbally, so will in the future be ignoring Birdseed. I decided to make the circumstances public since all sorts of stories might circulate in the chatterworld.

Ironically, I had planned to honor a request he’d made in an email four days before (see “Back story” below), as I’ve honored other trail reports made directly to me in the past.  But not now.

To be clear, this website will continue to use and show all VWA Trail Reports (or any sent privately, to the trailmap forum, …).  But – I was the one who had been approving Birdseed’s previous trail reports there, which I will no longer do.  The VWA relies heavily on volunteers (its Trails program is 100% volunteer-run).  Volunteers do what they want to do – if no volunteer wants to do something, it doesn’t get done.  The VWA Forum is maintained by volunteers and awhile back their number had shrunk to just one (the displayed ‘Moderator’ list is badly out of date). So I’d stepped in to help and lately have been the one doing most post approvals there from unregistered users. But in the future some other VWA volunteer must willing to do any Birdseed approvals – which is questionable, as he has been directing this same kind of venom towards both the VWA and individual volunteers for some time now. Somehow he expects to do that and still have others do things to benefit him. I know someone at some time will hike the trail and send in a VWA trail report, so that will suffice.

I thought only children threw tantrums, acted out and called people names.  At least I now know what he really thinks of me! 🙂 Seems to be a lot of hate out there, but life goes on, even for us “old men”.

Back story

On Labor Day evening my server farm needed to do ‘maintenance’ on my server.  The server then rebooted – but without any connection to its network! So on Tuesday the website was unreachable and I myself could not reach it as administrator.  Making a long story short, it took three long stress-filled days with help from AWS support to find an obscure problem – the bootup script itself had somehow become corrupted, so would get the server running but without a network connection. Replacing that script with an uncorrupted file and re-booting, the website was finally back up on the internet on Friday.

So I was burnt out and needed to get away for awhile. Sometime Friday or Saturday, can’t now remember which, noted I’d been sent a trail report email by Birdseed and mentally put it into my “to do later” bucket.  Then on Tuesday, when I again sat down to do some trailmap work, I first read my email and found the above gem.  If Birdseed had waited one more day (instead of just four) before sending, or just send a rational email, the trailmap would have been changed as he desired.

But that is now a what if, in a now different alternative universe. Trying to be reasonable does not work with unreasonable people.

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